The Bizarre World of the Bisexual

Another funny video.

Footlocker Ad

Here is an amazingly sexy Footlocker ad. And that's a sentence I never thought I'd type...

Via Violet Blue

Have a Merry and Safe Christmas

Japan is a place with more psychosexual weirdness going on than the rest of the world combined. I've got to admit, I don't totally get it. But I thought this video was kind of amazing. It seems really obvious when you say it, but this is the first time I've ever seen sex used to market safer sex in an effective -- and Christmasy! -- way.

Also, I have too many friends who would enjoy watching a video with some hot Asian gay guys and a drag queen for me to buy Christmas presents for all of them, so I'm giving them this post this year. Merry Christmas.

Via Tiny Nibbles

Christmas Is in the Air!

Everywhere I go they're playing Christmas songs. I have one to play too! This music video was just sent to me on Facebook by its director, the creator of the Family web series, as well as another upcoming series about being a poly parent. No nudity but there are some racy moments that are most definitely NSFW. Enjoy!


"Christmas Down South" music video - rated R version
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My Dirty Christmas List

I haven't been blogging much lately. I've been working on two large writing projects that involve a lot of research on the front end and then a lot of writing. The first project isn't very sexy so a lot of my time has been taken up with not-very-sexy topics lately. However, I'm almost done with the research on that project and I have a good start on the actual writing. Very soon, I'm going to be shifting focus to the researching the second project... and that promises to be a lot more fun!

So here is my dirty Christmas list: a list of books I'm planning to read eventually for research. You don't want me to have to go to the library to get them, do you?

Fiction

1. Dangerous Liaisons, by Pierre Choderlos de Laclos
   
2. 120 Days of Sodom, by DAF de Sade
   
3. The Story of O, by Pauline Reage
   
4. Fanny Hill, by John Cleland
   
5. The Well of Loneliness, by Radclyffe Hall
   
6. Last Exit to Brooklyn
   
7. Black Spring, by Henry Miller
   
8. Sexus, by Henry Miller
   
9. Lolita, by Vladmir Nobokov
   
10. Naked Lunch, by William S. Borroughs
    
11. Venus in Furs, by Leopold Von Sacher-Masoch

Non-Fiction

1. Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, by Alfred Kinsey
   
2. Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, by Alfred Kinsey
   
3. The Technology of Orgasm, by Rachel P. Maines
   
4. The Destroying Angel, by John Money
   
5. Sex in History, by R. Tannahill
   
6. The Velvet Underground, by Michael Leigh
   
7. The Velvet Underground Revisited, by Michael Leigh

Make Love, Not War!

I would like to recommend an article that Betty Dodson just wrote about Christine O'Donnell on the liberal website Truth Out. With everything that has been written about Christine O'Donnell in the last few months it didn't really occur to me that the voice that was missing was Betty Dodson's. As Dodson points out, on the subject of masturbation she is the exact opposite of Christine O'Donnell -- Betty Dodson has spent forty years helping women learn how to masturbate and understand their own orgasms, whereas Christine O'Donnell built her career around the idea that masturbation is a sin.

Dodson writes:

Still, I can see our commonality. We were two cute but undereducated girls with many handicaps and a lot of courage to make a difference by speaking out. Masturbation is a lustful sin in her eyes, and she is now a polished TV personality. I've been supportive of this basic human activity for decades and I can't even get arrested.

The rest of the article goes into the reasons why Dodson feels that the lack of personal sexual freedom and the ignorance of both men and women about their sexual bodies -- ignorance that masturbation would help them overcome -- is actually at the root of all of the world's problems. You might think that she's over simplifying things with this "make love, not war" argument but she actually manages to make a surprising amount of sense.

Until we acknowledge and accept masturbation as the foundation for all of human sexual activity, we will continue to be a nation of fast-ejaculating men and pre-orgasmic women. Through the consistent practice of masturbation, girls can become orgasmic women who are rarely victims because they have self-esteem and can speak their minds. Boys who have trained themselves to control ejaculation will become men with sexual self-assurance who are less prone to violence. By lessening sexual ignorance, boys and girls will make better social adjustments. Once we can accept sexual diversity as the law of the land, the quality of everyone's lives will improve.

Finally, the entire article is worth reading for this double entendre alone:

Finally the GOP gave sex-starved Americans a sex scandal - blow jobs in the oval office! Ken Starr blew a load of taxpayers' money detailing the entire episode.

Priceless! (emphasis mine)

Read the whole thing here

VOTE

Please don't forget to vote for some Democrats sometime today. It only takes one hand to punch a ballot!

Durex Ads That Made Me Smile

I just saw these ads from Durex that made me smile. You can click them to see larger versions. They depict the back of a fridge and the back of a television, and the writing at the bottom says, "Gel lubricant from Durex. Enjoy the other side."

Gel lube, of course, is designed to be used for anal sex. And, while Durex undoubtedly has a better ad campaign, if you're going to get some I recommend you buy Boy Butter.

This Bugs Me

Okay, I'm going to go really, really geeky here but I'm a writer and I get hung up about language so just let me rant.

I like good funny tee shirts. I like wearing them and they make good presents and since I'm poly and have a lot of friends who are poly, I thought a good, funny poly tee shirt would be a great thing to find. I've looked several times but the only one I seem to be able to find is this one.



This shirt bugs the heck out of me. Not because the joke is a little long-winded, possibly a bit awkwardly phrased. Not because it's an etymology joke. I'm the kind of person who would love a knee-slapper about hilarious suffices. And you've got to admit that this kind of humor is pretty appropriate to the subject, since polyamorists are generally a pretty smart, geeky group of people who could enjoy a dorky joke like this just as much as I would.

No, this shirt bugs me for a much simpler reason: Who the heck says it's wrong to mix Latin and Greek roots in the same word?!? That's perfectly normal. It's called a hybrid word and there are plenty of them. Automobile, dysfunctional, kilometer, electrocution, hyperactive, bilingual, sociology, sociopath, television. Even the most heteronormative etymologist wouldn't have a problem with polyamory on a grammatical level. If he did, he'd be a complete hypocrite because heteronormative is another Greek-Latin hybrid, with a French suffix to boot.

Besides polyamory, a lot of words to describe sexuality are also hybrids, like heterosexual, homosexual or bigamist. Polyamory is just the latest in a long tradition of English words that have smashed together bits and pieces of other languages. That's what makes the English language great!

So you heard it here first, kids. Polyamory is most definitely NOT wrong.

RE: What the Fuck Is Going On?!?

Actually, this seems like a pretty reasonable explanation for what appeared, at first glance, to be one hundred percent bullshit from the Obama Administration. Not that I'm happy about what is happening, but maybe there is an explanation other than some sort of desperate move to the right from a panicking party facing a midterm defeat.

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