tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178930846656475253.post7522090758816690948..comments2023-11-05T05:59:56.460-05:00Comments on Geeky Sex: Defending Vanilla SexPendardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17577176541967613748noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178930846656475253.post-15609140181671097592009-09-01T19:23:49.672-04:002009-09-01T19:23:49.672-04:00Thank you, thank you, thank you. I couldn't f...Thank you, thank you, thank you. I couldn't find the right words to respond to MM's post on her blog and it seems you've said it all here.<br /><br />Everything from the fact that in many cases there's less NEED to talk and discuss when you're having vanilla sex, to the need to be more sensitive to non-verbal communication, to the idea that one's vanilla-sex skills can atrophy ... all of it is SO true. <br /><br />I am poly and I find that when I switch from my more hard-core dom partner to my more vanilla partner, I do have to consciously mind-shift my expectations. It doesn't make my vanilla sex boring or less valid than my kinky sex; it's just different. <br /><br />Thank you again for a well out refutation of her claims that "vanilla = repressed and noncommunicative.Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00560691495557796422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178930846656475253.post-16277065479915375922009-09-01T18:39:49.123-04:002009-09-01T18:39:49.123-04:00"Reading Matisse's column, I had to wonde..."Reading Matisse's column, I had to wonder if her vanilla skills have atrophied from lack of use. It has happened to me in the past. Going from kinky sex to vanilla is like listening to quiet classical music when you're used to blasting punk. It takes a little while to stop missing all that raw power you're used to feeling and re-learn how to appreciate the nuances."<br /><br />I love this. :) Thank you for such a well-written piece about something that is often misunderstood.Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03901114161236569209noreply@blogger.com