tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178930846656475253.post3732121625654116688..comments2023-11-05T05:59:56.460-05:00Comments on Geeky Sex: It's Hard Being More Enlightened Than Everyone ElsePendardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17577176541967613748noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178930846656475253.post-37408978788610024032010-10-26T23:36:37.597-04:002010-10-26T23:36:37.597-04:00Yeah, I know what you mean. I saw Reality Bites f...Yeah, I know what you mean. I saw Reality Bites for the first time about a year ago and about fifteen minutes from the end the people I was watching it with did a poll to see who though Winona should end up with Ben and who thought she should end up with Ethan. When they asked me who I thought she should go with, I said, "Um, both." Which got a big laugh.<br /><br />Pop songs can also be a challenge to get through...Pendardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17577176541967613748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178930846656475253.post-50959352537347545952010-10-25T15:56:58.522-04:002010-10-25T15:56:58.522-04:00Man, I totally relate to your sentiments on this t...Man, I totally relate to your sentiments on this topic. I can't even watch a traditional romantic comedy film anymore, because the inevitable central conflict, 9 times out of 10, involves an infidelity and the heartache that ensues. And the whole concept of that is so alien to me. I mean, why would anyone live like that?! It baffles.Petal Filmshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06889177910903458520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178930846656475253.post-10470322922983039432009-12-07T14:12:53.092-05:002009-12-07T14:12:53.092-05:00I think it's interesting that your question is...I think it's interesting that your question is automatically "Why don't people question monogamy?" as opposed to "Why don't people question hurting each other or being dishonest?" Cheating isn't a product of a relationship paradigm - if it were, students would never cheat on tests, friends would never lie to friends, etc. Cheating happens when people don't value each other enough to be honest, and can happen in polyamorous relationships, too. Unless you're going to try and convince me that no member of a polyamorous relationship has ever lied to one or more partners about anything ever.<br /><br />Polyamory does make it easier for people not to lie to each other by eliminating the things that one would have to lie about and making them permissible...but that seems a bit like playing Monopoly, and then when you're losing, making the point of the game to end up with the LEAST money. Then you get to say "Yay! I won!" Wouldn't it be great if people didn't need to adapt a whole other relationship style just to make that easier? Wouldn't it be great if people just communicated with each other and didn't lie to each other on their own no matter what kind of relationship they were in? THAT would be REALLY enlightened.<br /><br />I think people get defensive about the idea that polyamory would solve all their problems not because of any particular feeling about polyamory, but because by saying that you're missing the point. The point is that a person's trust in another person was shaken by a hurtful, dishonest action. What kind of relationship you're in when that happens to you is irrelevant.Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03901114161236569209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3178930846656475253.post-79443815528528005982009-12-06T16:05:19.220-05:002009-12-06T16:05:19.220-05:00I often get curious questions from my monogamous f...I often get curious questions from my monogamous friends, who quickly become defensive when I answer honestly. Yet, if the conversation goes on, they tend to share their inner doubts about conventional relationships, their pessimism, and the bitterness they thought only they felt.Lust With Wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02729604216655461925noreply@blogger.com